Sunday, May 5, 2013

Bullying Rant...

Happy Cinco de Mayo! I hope you all had a great weekend! I had another post planned for today but my older boys were watching a movie on tv and they were showing that Bully documentary and it just broke my heart and made me really angry. It saddens me to say but I've already had to deal with bullying with my oldest. Hes 9yr old and in the 3rd grade and when he was in 2nd grade he had been bullied. It all started on the first day of kindergarten when he met "that friend" ill call him A. He lived on the same street as us and they were in the same class. A had a mouth on him and liked teaching my son all of the cuss words and potty mouth and racist crape that he knew. Such as...oh my nuts, F#@!, B*$@!, dumb a*@ mexicans (my boys are 1/2 mexican by the way) and many other delightful things. Needless to say that was a fun year. A started getting mean to my son shortly after 1st grade started. I'm not sure if it had to do with the fact that as soon as they would get off the bus A would be asking if he could come over (the year before he used to come over until he started with the potty mouth & wouldn't stop even when being ask to and told that wasn't nice or appropriate and not tolerated in our house) I would tell him sorry but my son has homework ext but it got to the point A would come over ring the crap out of the doorbell , sit on our front porch, tap on the living room window even after I told him he couldn't play. There was even one time A and his older brother went in our garage and came in our house threw the side door because I was so annoyed that I just didn't answer the door anymore. Sorry I'm rambling now but by 2nd grade A would pick on my oldest, talk mean to him, try to take his backpack and throw it, hit/kick him, push his face in dog poo (I kid you not) ext. I made many calls to the school/principal, talked to them in person and kept getting told they had talked to A or given his a write up. This crape went on anyway! One day I had terrible morning sickness and was running a little late to the bus stop (normally I'm waiting there when the bus comes) I grab my shoes and hurry out the door I start walking to the bus stop (the bus is just letting the kids off) they get off the bus and A decides to try and tackle my oldest down. I yell KNOCK IT OFF! But A keeps going he knocks my oldest to the ground sits on top of him and starts punching him in his face and upper body and grabs his head and starts beating it into the sidewalk. I'm screaming and running like hell down the street to get to him. As I'm running over there my son manages to push A off if him and swings his backpack at him (he had his lunch box with ice packs in it and it hits A in his cheek by his nose) he starts crying and his nose is bleeding. There were adults and teenagers standing out side the house right next to the bus stop watching the whole thing not doing a dam thing. I grab my son and take home home to make sure he's ok and the adults walked A home apparently. We get inside I'm freaking out trying to see if he's ok when there's a knock at the door its A and his mom. She asks me why my son hurt her A and I about lost it and told her what had happened.  She then says "oh well there was no harm done. I just don't want the school calling me asking what happened to him or sending dcfs over". Are you kidding me! I tell the school what happened and I get the same oh well talk to him. I get angry start calling tge superintendent to let them know I'm not happy with how this is being dealt with (I ended up taking my son to the er and he had a slight concussion). The schools fix was to have my son moved to a bus that would pick him up in front of our house at the crack of don and get him to school 1 1/2 hrs before school started (while A gets to keep his nice schedule and "gets talked to"). That same year 2 boys on this new bus were messing with him calling him bad names in spanish and telling him to shut up ext. Any way my point with all that rambling is that its sad that this kind of stuff happens all the time even at such young grades. I've even witnessed it in kindergarten classes. I truly hope to never have to deal with bullying again but I have a feeling we won't be that lucky:( Have you ever had to deal with bullying and your child? Have a great night:)

9 comments:

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  3. I watched that whole documentary on YouTube. It really is heartbreaking.

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  4. Every time I hear stories like this, I just get so upset. I actually wrote a piece discussing some aspects of bullying, boy culture, and whether or not we should teach children to defend themselves and others. It includes a story about my son being bullied, if you'd like to read it.

    http://unnecessarywisdom.wordpress.com/2013/05/02/boys-and-violence-its-not-the-problem-its-the-solution/

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    1. Thanks for sharing I'll be sure to check it out!

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  5. So hard! I am so sorry to hear you went through this. The things that were said are horrific!

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  6. I am soo sorry to hear about that! Reading it got me upset! How dare they not do much more than they could? Ugh! Why should your son the one being picked on have to abrupt his schedule while the bully does not get reprimanded! That is just not right! I hope your son continues to stay strong! I know as a mother it must break your heart to see your baby go through that. You stay strong as well. Everything will be alright. :)

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